RE POST: Christmas Is For Those That Hate It Most

Posted 13 Dec 2011 in ::Life::,Family,Giving Back

I generally have a tendency to cheer for the underdog in situations. Take the others side that might be made fun of, or maybe even never have a chance to defend him or herself or is maybe just misunderstood. I also am getting really worn out with our culture at Christmas. The “I want this, and I want that” stuff. Oh trust me, I’m the worst with this, but I’m really starting to hate this part about me, especially when you’re trying to raise kids that emulate everything you do. I think this is why this post that I read on my friends blog, Caleb Magnino, really stuck out to me. Also maybe because I get a little anxious sometimes around the holidays for various reason. Who knows, maybe one of these below is YOU!

Happy Holidays my friends and I hope you find yourself encourage, inspired and maybe even humbled a little by this guest post!
Daniel

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The original post was on The Gospel Coalition blog written by blogger Matt B. Redman.

We are by now accustomed to hearing about how Christmas is difficult for many people. The story of Scrooge and his—ehem—problems with this season is no longer anecdotal. It is now par for the course. Maybe it always has been. Maybe the joy of the season has always been a thorn in the side of those who can scarcely imagine joy.

Not too long ago, I heard from someone about how difficult Christmas would be because of some heartbreak in their family. There was utter hopelessness and devastation. Christmas would be impossible to enjoy because of the freshness of this pain. It’s been a story very hard to forget.

I get it. I mean, it makes sense on the level of Christmas being a time in which there is a lot of heavily concentrated family time. The holidays can be tense in even the best of circumstances. Maneuvering through the landmines of various personalities can be hard even if there is no cancer, divorce or empty seat at the table. What makes it the most wonderful time of the year is also what makes it the most brutal time of the year. My own family has not been immune to this phenomenon.

But allow me to push back against this idea a little. Gently. I think we have it all backwards. We have it sunk deep into our collective cultural consciousness that Christmas is for the happy people. You know, those with idyllic family situations enjoyed around stocking-strewn hearth dreams. Christmas is for healthy people who laugh easily and at all the right times, right? The successful and the beautiful, who live in suburban bliss, can easily enjoy the holidays. They have not gotten lost on the way because of the GPS they got last year. They are beaming after watching a Christmas classic curled up on the couch as a family in front of their ginormous flat-screen. We live and act as if this is who should be enjoying Christmas.

But this is backwards. Christmas—the great story of the incarnation of the Rescuer—is for everyone, especially those who need a rescue. Jesus was born as a baby to know the pain and sympathize with our weaknesses. Jesus was made to be like us so that in his resurrection we can be made like him; free from the fear of death and the pain of loss. Jesus’ first recorded worshipers were not of the beautiful class. They were poor, ugly shepherds, beat down by life and labor. They had been looked down on over many a nose.

Jesus came for those who look in the mirror and see ugliness. Jesus came for daughters whose fathers never told them they were beautiful. Christmas is for those who go to “wing night” alone. Christmas is for those whose lives have been wrecked by cancer, and the thought of another Christmas seems like an impossible dream. Christmas is for those who would be nothing but lonely if not for social media. Christmas is for those whose marriages have careened against the retaining wall and are threatening to flip over the edge. Christmas is for the son whose father keeps giving him hunting gear when he wants art materials. Christmas is for smokers who cannot quit even in the face of a death sentence. Christmas is for prostitutes, adulterers, and porn stars who long for love in every wrong place. Christmas is for college students who are sitting in the midst of the family and already cannot wait to get out for another drink. Christmas is for those who traffic in failed dreams. Christmas is for those who have squandered the family name and fortune—they want “home” but cannot imagine a gracious reception. Christmas is for parents watching their children’s marriage fall into disarray.

Christmas is really about the gospel of grace for sinners. Because of all that Christ has done on the cross, the manger becomes the most hopeful place in a universe darkened with hopelessness. In the irony of all ironies, Christmas is for those who will find it the hardest to enjoy. It really is for those who hate it most.

Matt B. Redmond is associate pastor for Branch Life Church in Birmingham, Alabama. A graduate of Covenant Theological Seminary, he blogs at Scribo Facio Noto.

ARE ONE OF THESE LISTED ABOVE YOU? DO YOU LOATH THE HOLIDAYS? IT’S OKAY, I UNDERSTAND AND WOULD LOVE TO HEAR YOUR BRIEF STORY.

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6 Comments

  1. Daniel C White (30 Nov 1999, 0:00)

    Thanks for the comment Tammy, and I totally hear you. I think it\’s the culture we live it. Nothing is never enough. I hope you\’re well and have a great Christmas!

  2. Diane White (15 Dec 2011, 14:54)

    I agree with you, Daniel, about the extreme commercialism of Christmas. It's gotten out of control—starting before Halloween. There's something wrong when we see pumpkins and Santas on the same store aisle. Our brain becomes so "fried" from having to deal with it all, we start to dread the very season that should make us happy.
    I blame that on two things—–our insatiable desire to "have whatever everyone else has," and the rise of technology, which constantly bombards us via television, computer, radio, tweets, texts, e-mails, blogs, facebook, etc. about what we need in our lives to make it perfect. It's counter-productive. I think this whole movement started in the late sixties, and it has just gotten worse over time. People in the fifties didn't know what the latest and greatest toy was!! Very few families even had a television in the home. Of course, that era had major human rights issues, so I wouldn't want to go back .
    People buy into the idea that their Christmas should be perfect, just like the Christmas songs and movies depict. That's not reality, as your friend said, and when theirs doesn't measure up, they think something is wrong. Most families have Christmases more similar to the Griswald's Christmas vacation!! Ha
    Having said that, I'm going to go out and buy the boys some more toys!! Ha

    Nana

  3. Daniel C White (15 Dec 2011, 15:29)

    Nana, you're stinkin' awesome and I think you should have your own blog :-) ha ha!Sent from my iPhoneDaniel C White615.943.3766

  4. Tammy (17 Dec 2011, 15:16)

    Well Daniel i have to agree with you and your nana. It is all about wanting this and wanting that. When i was growing up i was lucky to get what i wanted seeing as how i was in between parents. Now a days the kids are wanting ipads, ipods, blackberry's and other expensive electronics. In particular my kids my 10 year old AND my 4 year both want ipads for christmas all because my 10 year old neice got one last year for christmas. Of course my 10 year old will also settle for art stuff because she wants to be an artist when she gets older(and she's a great artist for her age). But it's crazy how people don't really appreciate what they recieve, it's all about this latest expensive thing and that latest expensive thing.

  5. Thelma (05 Jan 2012, 10:49)

    Why hate Christmas? It is the best time of the year everyone get presents and happiness is all around!

  6. Daniel C White (09 Jan 2012, 23:22)

    I hear ya Thelma, but what we have to understand is that because this holiday is all about family and those you love, some people have lost all of those things. Some by choice, and some not. It's just recognizing that although the majority of us thoroughly enjoy and are inspired by the Christmas holidays, it's more of a season of hurt instead of joy for others.I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and thanks so much for chiming in with your optimism.



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